“…until you know what you really want to say yes to, you will continue to say yes to everything else.” — Robert Holden
The other side of choosing to say ‘no’ to certain activities in your life is to fill it up with your big YES’S. What activities lift your energy, what positive experiences do you want to have more of, who are the people that you want to spend more time with?
One of the most empowering discoveries I made about 22 years ago was that I am an introvert. However, our society prizes extroverts and it is not always easy living as an introvert in an extrovert world.
Evidence shows that introverts are more sensitive than extroverts to different types of stimulus, and that introverts and extroverts often need very different levels of stimulation to function at their best. Introverts and extroverts also draw their energies from different sources – introverts from solitude and extroverts from interacting with others.
In the video below, Susan Cain, the author of ‘Quiet – The Power of Introverts in a World That Can’t Stop Talking’, speaks about how dramatically our society under values introverts, and how much it loses in doing so. Cain defines introverts as ‘men of contemplation’ who may enjoy the company of others, but are also comfortable with solitude. Introverts are sensitive, contemplative, modest and calm, and spend a lot of time thinking and reflecting. They can enjoy social occasions, but need restorative time alone afterwards.
Are you an introvert in an extrovert world?
Once you understand what your strengths are and where you are on the introversion/extroversion continuum you can consciously situate yourself in environments favourable to your personality.
One of my coaching services is a Jung Typology Test that can assist in exploring your strengths and understanding where you are on the introvert/extrovert continuum. Contact me for more information.