There are times in our life when certain segments of our life just get neglected. That is happening to me at the moment – I have a huge to do list that is just not being done. If I was my own coaching client I would have fired myself by now – but I need to take account that the timing of some of my tasks is not right and I need to surrender to it.
What I have done though, is a lot of sitting with friends that I love, having conversations about the state of our hearts and our souls. There is a lot of heartache going around at the moment so they have not been conversations filled with fun and laughter, but they have been really important – much more important than my to do list.
In her article To Anyone Who Thinks They’re Falling Behind in Life Jamie Varon writes that “we need to show up as we are in this moment and let that be enough, we change when we want to change, and we put our ideas into action in the timing that is best.”
As we wind down from 2015 and enter into 2016 we may be beginning to formulate our New Year’s resolutions and set our goals for the year ahead.
I believe that making resolutions and goal setting can sometimes be counterproductive as it asks us to hold ourselves accountable to forces outside our control. If we do not achieve our goals or keep to our resolutions we may consider ourselves a failure.
We cannot predict whether our actions towards a goal will produce a desired outcome – there can be ‘unintended consequences’. So sometimes we just need to take small exploratory steps that will produce a change of some sort – either towards our preferred future or not. We may find that something new, something unexpected and every now and then something fantastic may happen.
Unlike a goal, a small step is not something to achieve or fail to achieve – it is just something that one takes or not.
In the article below Ash Blankenship writes about letting go of our desires and changing our attitude to allow us to become more receptive to life’s greatness.